My 5 links for the week

http://www.eggshellgreen.com/2009/11/20/how-to-yum-char/ - If you want to take your children out to a restaurant, but not sure if they are up to it, you have to give Yum Char a go. This great post tells you what to expect and how it all works!

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http://destitutegourmet.blogspot.com/2009/11/as-i-mentioned-on-face-book-cheesecake.html - I’m so excited! My favourite chef, Sophie Gray has her own blog! She has recipes as well as honest down to earth posts that we can all relate to. Check out this White chocolate and berry cheesecake….mmmmmm…..cheesecake!!!!

http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/how-to-be-a-fantastic-parent/#comment-618 - Loving this post about how to be a fantastic parent. Has lots of common sense advice, which leaves you thinking, “oh yeah, I’ve got to do that better!”

KMB Represent

http://kiwimummyblogs.blogspot.com/ - Wow, I didn’t realise how many kiwi mummys were blogging out there! I am totally surprised! Check out this site which lists a whole bunch of really interesting blogs (you’ll see me listed there too! *blush*)

http://www.chasingpictureperfection.com/ - Love photography, but need a bit of guidance? This mummy blogger shares photography tips, and you can also join in on her online photography assignments too!

Fashion vs Common sense?!?!

We may not be fashion divas, but every now and then we make choices in the name of fashion ahead of comfort, warmth and common sense!

Fashion won over warmth and comfort today. I tried to get a strategic carpark to avoid the rain rather than pair my heals with my daggy bright red raincoat.

At church sometimes fashion wins over common sense. Every now and then I decide to wear my higher heels even though I know I will be running after my 2 youngest children half of the time!

Oh, and lets not forget shoes! I bought a couple of shoes which were a bit sore snug in the store. You quickly get advised by the ever friendly shop assistant that “they will stretch”. “They aren’t really that sore snug” you say to yourself as you walk the short distance from one end of the shop to the other. They are super cute and such a good deal so you buy them. They then become the shoes you wear when you want to look rockin’…..but you also avoid walking long distances in them at all cost!

Ahhhh fashion! What choices have you made recently in the name of fashion?

The serial volunteer

Perhaps I need to buy this tote bag???

My hubby and I are very different when it comes to volunteering. Let me paint a picture for you:

Me: I volunteer for all sorts of things. I feel at the time, that I can fit it in. I usually start off really well, but then as I try and juggle all my other commitments I start to struggle.  

Hubby: He will only commit to things he knows he can follow through with. Before taking anything on he will logically think about whether or not he can fit it in. If he can fit it in, and it is something he feels like he would like to do, he will do it. If he can’t see it fitting in, he has no problem saying “no”.

As I was driving home tonight at 11pm after having a full, full day, I suddenly thought….is it better to do a few things really well (including focusing on your family, children and yourself) rather than doing a lot of things badly (at the expense of your family, children and yourself)?

Unless you take a realistic view of how much time you have available and how much you realistically have on your plate already, you will end up taking on something, and it will be to the detriment of something else.

Food for thought…..maybe it is something I need to consider before I decide I can take on anything extra!

When will the serial volunteerers stop? – “when we do it ALL?” or ” or when we do it ALL BADLY” ;)

My 5 links for the week

http://fryefamhappenings.blogspot.com/2009/11/compilation-of-must-have-mom-advice.html – It’s amazing what parenting tips we pick up along the way. Read this post and see how much you have learned on this parenting journey.

http://smallacornsnz.blogspot.com/2009/11/postscript-orla-kiely-double-takes.html – See how a blog post resulted in taking on the Warehouse (the New Zealand equivilant of walmart)

http://simplemom.net/how-to-host-a-memorable-holiday-cookie-swap/ - a cookie swap is a great social event that you can do during christmas time. For our church we did a similar idea, but instead of taking our “loot” home with us, we made little goodie bags and gave them to friends etc to share the christmas love.

http://www.usedbooks.co.nz/ (for New Zealanders) – Don’t wait around until Trademe (like Ebay) list a book that you are after, go to this site and find cheap used books plus reasonable postage.

http://www.karencheng.com.au/2009/11/20/omg-i-made-ice-cream/ - I love quick, easy and yummy recipes. I’m looking forward to trying this home-made ice cream recipe!

Inspirational Quote: Do the best that YOU can

“We each do the best we can. My best may not be as good as your best, but it’s my best. The fact is that we know when we are doing our best and when we are not. If we are not doing our best, it leaves us with a gnawing hunger and frustration. But when we do our level best, we experience a peace.”

MAJORIE PAY HINCKLEY

Read post incase of emergency

Not that this would ever happen to you…because eerrrrr…it didn’t happen to us….but if “someone” you know got a phone call in the morning to confirm a dinner appointment for later in the evening (which “they” forgot about) and had a house that looked liked a hurricane had blown through it and had no food in the house, this post might be of benefit to “them”!

  1. Get more bang for your buck. The focus areas are: a kitchen cleaned up ready for cooking, a clean and inviting bathroom, clear & de-cluttered hallways and entrance, clear the table for eating obviously (you could even get away with setting the table when they arrive if you are totally stuck on time – although this grates some people who find this inviting gesture really important), and have a tidy area they can relax and mingle. And vacuum, vacuum, vacuum!
  2. Write a list of what needs to be done: On your list you would include the rooms that need work, time for cooking and shopping etc. Write it all down. *faint* *pick yourself up again* and then go to the next step.
  3. Choose a simple meal that isn’t labour intensive: I choose One could choose something like a sage & onion chicken roast (did I mention this was one of those “ready to roast” easy peasy chickens?)with rosemary & garlic roast vegetables. A side of salad and a basket of store-bought rolls. An easy dessert could be a self-saucing fudge pudding with ice cream.
  4. Write down the approximate time each task will take. Go down your list and guess how long each task will take. Be realistic. If you can not fit everything in before the guests arrive, then you need to start prioritising and see if you can cut anything out. If your children are really young, realise that you will not have as much time to get everything done, because one adult will be with the children. If your children are older, they can pitch in with certain jobs. You also need to put time aside for lunch and snacks etc.
  5. Write out a schedule for the day. Get an A4 piece of paper and write down the time in 15 min increments down the left hand side of the paper. Along the top divide the paper into 3 columns: hubby, you, kids. Start allocating jobs to time slots. For the children’s column write out what activities you will be doing with them today.
  6. Adjust the plan. You are bound to have to adjust the schedule as you go along, that is the reality. When you find that things take longer than you thought, quickly adjust the plan to accomodate the change in the schedule.
  7. Focus on what needs to be done. Always think, what would have to be done if they were to walk in the door right now.
  8. Always think of the bigger picture. Don’t suddenly decide you need to re-organise the entire bookcase when your time could be better spent on other jobs.
  9. When the guests arrive, be ok with what you have done. So your house doesn’t look like it would if you had kept on top of it during the week….but recognise that you have done a lot. Give yourself a pat on the back, and enjoy the evening.
  10. Vow that you won’t let this happen again. Tell yourself not to rely on your memory next time. Tell yourself that you won’t let your house get in such a state again.  Tell yourself that you will try harder this week……then put your feet up and leave the dishes until tomorrow……….JUST KIDDING!!! Enjoy all the work that you have put in the house today AFTER you clean up.
  11. After all that, wonder whether it would have been easier to have ordered pizzas and stick to one room of the house. hahahaha

What do you cherish most?

“Pause for a moment and think about what three things in your life you value, or what are more important to you than anything else.

Write them down.

…..You’ve indicated the things that you believe are most important to you. But are you spending your time in a way that reflects their importance? The answer may be eye opening.”

DOROTHY LEHMKUHL & DOLORES COTTER LAMPING

(from the book “Organizing for the Creative Person”)

You just had to be there…

For family home evening last week my hubby came up with an idea that had me crying because I was laughing so much.

He laid a kid down, covered their nose, eyes and neck lightly with a scarf/piece of material. Then stuck a couple of metal washers with blu tak on their chin……

to make….

a chin face! (I didn’t take the photo below. Ours was a really simple bald chin person.)

I took some video on my cellphone, and we asked the “chin faces” questions and then fed them chocolate cookies! We all had a go, it was such a laugh!

Making your home a refuge

“Children hear so many voices from so many directions. There are so few empty summer days. There are pressures to excel. It has become a challenge to let children be children.

It has never been so important that children have a home that is a place of refuge, a place of peace, a place of unconditional love – even when the report card may not be what you hoped for.”

MAJORIE PAY HINCKLEY

Ode to my MacLaren Techno XT

No doubt you have probably heard about the voluntary recall of the umbrella type MacLaren buggies. Over the past 10 years there have been 12 cases of finger amputations due to the hinges (I believe it is when the finger gets caught in the hinge as they are being opened). You don’t have to return your buggies, you just need to get a free ”hinge cover”. For those who own any type of umbrella type buggy, just be careful there are no little kids lurking around you while you fold and especially unfold your buggies.

See a video about it here

Information on hinge kits:

New Zealand – I called the 0800 number as well as Babycity (the only store in NZ offering hinge kits) and they don’t have any stock at the moment, but are taking names and phone numbers for when they arrive.

US

UK

Global MacLaren site

My MacLaren Techno XT is on its last legs, and I am contemplating getting a “tune up” to extend its life. All the buggy business got me thinking about my wee buggy and so I have come up with my “Ode to my MacLaren Techno XT”

ODE TO MY MACLAREN TECHNO XT

You came into my life when I needed you most. I was a busy mother that was always on the go, I needed something that was light and easy to use.

You didn’t disappoint.

Before I bought you I put you to the test. I tried steering you with one hand. The reason for this was soon understood, as I pushed you along while holding the child who was “supposed” to be in the pram. Or when I would have to push a child who was in the pram while carrying another.

You stretched up your handle bars to accomodate my hubby’s tall height (I think you were showing off?!)

You confidently squeezed into the limited boot space we had when we upgraded from a car to our Honda Odyssey people mover. You even took on the challenge of squeezing into the space under our younger children’s feet when we would take you on vacation.

How you never seemed to get bored of seeing me again and again and again as I would use you for the daily school and Playcentre pick ups and drop offs. You would never complain, and just opened and closed easily and quickly for me every time.

When church was in the afternoon, you would stretch all the way back without us needing to fiddle around and allowed my wee one to lay napping in your care. When she woke up, with one quick movement the seat was up again.

You were a great shopping companion, and squeezed through isles with ease.

You didn’t seem to fuss at being turned into a trolley when the child would want to walk and you ended up carrying all the stuff.

You didn’t even seem to mind when the older child wanted to sit on you, while the little one pushed you along.

You kept our babies nice and warm with your snuggly foot muff (no blankets to fall off or constantly tuck in) and my favourite feature – the fitted wind cover. How we needed this on numerous occasions as we ventured out into windy Wellington!

Although your under carriage did not cater for all the junk stuff we needed for an outing with 4 kids, you let us over stuff the space you did have, and hang our bags on your handles.

You would take good care of the wee one in the pram so I could have two free hands to settle the older sibling on their drop off, or when I would have to quickly run off after a run-away toddler, or when I needed all my attention when giving a “lecture” (usually to the run-away child) and not have to worry about the younger one running away too.

Thank you MacLaren Techno XT for being a part of our family all these years.

xoxoxo

Shoes & Shaving

things i can do without

  • kids shoe shopping: I was a crazy woman and ventured out to go shoe shopping for my 5 year old son with my 8 year old, 7 year old and 2 year old in tow. I survived to tell the tale!

things i can’t do without:

  • positive stuff on the front page of the newspaper: My friend’s 13 year old son Gabe Martinez, was on the front page of the newspaper yesterday after he shaved his hair off for charity. Here is the email my friend sent around to her friends:

“Thank you for your support for Gabe and his cause!

Yesterday, in the school hall, I had the privilege to shave off my son’s afro as part of his Funrazor for Child Cancer Foundation. Almost everyone from Newlands Intermediate was there – chanting his name and cheering him on.  The spirit was overwhelming.  I had to prevent myself from crying.  His friend Noah, whose brother has cancer, was on Skype to witness the event.  What a terrific way to celebrate his 13th birthday!

Today, Gabe appears on the front page of the Dominion Post. He is also featured on their website http://www.stuff. co.nz/national/ health/3068644/ Gabes-close- shave-for- Child-Cancer. A great number of people (from different parts of the world) who have read his story have also donated through his webpage.  He has now raised over NZ$1700 (online).

We thank God for blessing Gabe with a generous spirit. We are indeed very proud of Gabe.  But as he said it, it’s not about him  It’s about raising funds for children who are not suppose to suffer because of cancer.  One Kiwi friend of mine told me, “I wish my son will have a heart like Gabe when he grows up.”  What more can I say?”

My 5 links for the week

http://www.marketingfirst.co.nz/blog/2009/06/list-of-all-the-nz-one-day-deal-websites/ – (for New Zealanders)  A comprehensive list on all the “daily deal” websites. Pick up a Christmas bargin today!

http://www.flickr.com/photos/jasonepowell/sets/72157613841045343/ – really interesting photos..you gotta have a peek! go on! have a peek ;-)

http://plainandsimpleorganizer.blogspot.com/2009/01/at-what-age-can-my-kids-help-at-home.html – A great post which lists chores and approximate ages they are able to do it.

http://www.rubbishfreeyear.co.nz/?page_id=5#items – Need some ideas on how to reduce your waste? Look under “Guide to specific items”

http://sherylbutters.wordpress.com/2009/08/01/me-help-mummy-okay/ – Tips on getting pre-schoolers to help with chores, and send your details to get a free download for a set of homeplay cards (another way to get the kids to help with chores)

First day of school! My son’s report

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

Me: How was school today?

My son: Good and bad

Me: Oh yeah?

My son: Yeah, the playground was cool, but then we had to go in the classroom three times…….THREE TIMES!!!

That cracked me up! Funny how his mind focused on the amount of times he had to leave the playground to go into the classroom…*grin* (He had to go into the classroom when school started, he had to go back in when morning tea was finished, then again after lunchtime. When school finished, guess where he wanted to go….to the playground!)

Family Traditions: The BIG 5th Birthday Bash!

Presents

What does 20 children + water guns + lots of transformers make?

My son’s 5th birthday party!!

The “big bash” was bigger than what we normally have.  With 20 children ranging from babies to my son’s 8 year old sister, it was crazy, but a lot of fun. I am so grateful to all my Playcentre friends and our family for helping out!

In our family we have big birthday parties when our children turn 1 and 5. The rest of the time we have special family outings and a small party in the evening.

At the party:

  • We started out with a treasure hunt that my older daughters ran. They hid the letters from my son’s name all around Playcentre. On arrival the children got a card with my son’s name on it. They had to find the letters and match it to the letters on the card. Once they did this, they went to one of my daughters to get a little bag of lollies.
  • My hubby put a Megatron mask on (the bady from transformers) and ran around while the children took turns spraying him with water guns. Once they hit him (over and over again! hehehe) they got their party favours which was their own novelty cup and a curly strawer.
  • Then it was time for afternoon tea – yummy fruit platter: strawberries, watermelon, grapes and pineapple. Fairy bread and chocolate hail bread. Marshmallows. Ham & Pineapple Pizzas. Popcorn….I think that’s it?
  • For the adults: Spinach & Feta dip with green, red, yellow & orange capsicums, carrots and rice crackers. Beetroot & cream cheese dip with crostinis. We also had some yummy scrummy gourmet pizza ;) .
  • After the kids ate they did a lot of running around outside.
  • Pass the parcel was next – as you can imagine the parcel started out quite big!

Pass the parcel 2

  • All the children were eager to get their presents opened, and my son was eager to open them! Thank you for all the lovely presents!

Present opening

  • Singing happy birthday was at the very end and we got to eat some birthday cake! yeah!

My favourite part had to be watching my hubby running around and getting sprayed by the water guns – what a trooper!

TIPS:

  • Get a good venue. We used our Playcentre which could easily accomodate 20 children sitting around a table.
  • Have enough adults to help. Hubby and I were lucky that so many lovely friends and family members helped out in the kitchen, games, and cleaning up. They really helped make the party such an enjoyable experience!
  • Have a plan and keep it moving. Know which order you are doing the games etc and keep and eye on the time. Because we choose to have the present opening as an activity, I put pass the parcel before it to help gather the children inside.
  • Keep it simple and special. Everything that happened on the day was a balance of how much time we were able to put into it, how much money it would cost, and the flow of the party on the day. I think whatever we do for our children, in whatever form that may take, I’m sure they enjoy it!

Discovery date: Window shopping at Small Acorns

I had a couple of hours to myself last Friday (2 children at school, one at Playcentre and one at a friend’s) so I drove into Wellington city with the intention of having a gelato by the beach(mmmm…gelato…oh! where was I?!? Oh yeah….back to the post…) Things changed when I drove past Small Acorns and I just had to stop by….when you see the photos, you will understand why….

Small acorns

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

Little acorns is a boutique shop in Wellington city that die-hard Wellingtonians would know about, but those who are newer to the city may have missed. It is located on 177 Featherston Street, Wellington Central. They stock a wide range of items in their store from handbags to children’s clothing, inspiring books to homeware, stationery to jewellery…and many more things to drool over! They have an online store too! (check out the free shipping within New Zealand until 18 November! wooohoo!)

The first thing I saw when I walked in were these adorable paper mache bangles by Kukula Designs.

Bracelet

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

Then I turned around to find some mouth-watering cards. (I was too busy looking, that I forgot to buy the card that I wanted! doh! hmmm Another visit to Small Acorns mmmmm…*grin*)

Card

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

More cards

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

I just love pretty things, so after I sheepishly asked if I could take some photos for my blog, I circled the store, then circled it again…..and again – just to take everything in.

My son is into origami at the moment, so I thought this book would be great for him. (I LOVE the cushions they have at Small Acorns too – beautiful prints!)

Origami book

Photo by Juggling Motherhood

Small Acorn are stockist for Poppies for Grace – check out their story on their blog.  Their selection of stationery makes you want to write a letter to your best friend just so they can enjoy the beautiful envelopes and paper as well!

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Photo by Juggling Motherhood

I was drawn to this writing set. It had a beautiful picture on one side, and then you would flip it over to reveal lined paper to write on. Loved the detail on the envelopes.

poppies for grace set

Instead of speed shopping like I normally do with toddler in tow, I was able to really enjoy the visual feast for my eyes *bliss*

Turns out the owner of Small Acorns is a fellow blogger! (Hi Amanda! Thanks for letting me enjoy your shop on my discovery date!) Check her blog out: http://smallacornsnz.blogspot.com/

PS This isn’t an adverisement…I just love the store!

Q&A: Discovery Dates

Discovery dates are where you have a chance to “discover” a bit more about yourself. During discovery dates, you allot a certain amount of time (usually a couple of hours) to do something just for you!  I think that each of us should place an importance on discovering what we love or don’t love. I also recognise that we are all at different stages:

“I have no idea what I like!” Been there! I bought myself a blank book. In it I would write down or stick in pictures of things that would make me smile, or get excited about. I would pay attention to my feelings when they would tell me “yeah, I like that” – then, in the book it would go. During my discovery dates I would either do something from my book that I became interested in, or I would test out the waters and try something completely new.

“I have a lot of things I like” Sometimes we know what we like, but we don’t carve out any time to do them. Perhaps you used to love to draw, but have stopped. Perhaps you would read, if you just had the time. Use the discovery date to follow these interests, and try and think about how you could extend that interest – be creative and think outside the box.

Other questions:

How often? Personally, I found that doing them once a week was best. Only because you get into the habit of putting aside time for yourself - which is really important. Having said that fortnightly or monthly is better than nothing. Just make sure that your aim is to do it weekly eventually. You are worth that!

Day or night? I have done them in the evenings when the little kids were in bed. I have gone out for a few hours on a Saturday. A couple of times I have done a babysitting swap with a friend during the day. Recently my DD2 has had a drop off at Playcentre, so I have committed to doing a discovery date during those few hours she is there. Whatever works with your family situation.

By myself? This is a time that you set aside to discovery what makes you feel happy inside. I wouldn’t recommend going with a friend or family member who drains your energy and focuses on themselves (it may even be a good idea not to tell them, because then it would be awkward to say you don’t want them to come..hehehe). On the other hand, I don’t think it would be a problem to be with someone who would add to your experience rather than detract from it.

I have two criteria for discovery dates:

They have to be completely self-fish

and

The thought of it makes you smile

Committing to doing discovery dates frequently is basically saying to yourself that you are worth spending time on ;)

Come back and share with me what you have been doing!