Where’s Wally? Where’s Mummy!?! Getting out from behind the camera

So here’s what I have realised. I have hardly any photos of myself!

Making more of an effort to get out from behind the camera has been on my mind, on and off over the last couple of years. We even bought a smaller camera with the idea that the kids could take photos of the family…and hopefully with me in it too!

Then a few days ago, I was asked to submit a photo for something. I went searching and I was shocked at how few photos I am in. Absolutely shocked.

If I wanted to change this, I needed to be a wee bit more demanding, “ok, now take a photo of me!”

I also needed to get over myself.

I remember last year, when I really grasped the fact that, how we look every day: no make up, our hair doing all sorts of funny things and daggy clothes etc, is how our kids see us every…single…day. So they are going to love that photo of us even if we are “unpolished”, because that person they are hugging in the photo is their reality.

For my children, I want them to have photos of me with them.

And for me, I want to accept and love the person in the photo….au naturel. ;)

I have been challenging myself, by taking opportunities to snap photos of myself. I just set up the tripod and away I go.

Sometimes, instead of using the tripod I get the kids to take the photos.

I didn’t realise that this exercise would reward me with such fun (and funny) photos. None of these photos were taken by another adult.  The shots inside were on a tripod (I bought a bundle similar to this S1800 model where you will see my mini tripod). The shots outside were taken by me or the kids using our Fujifilm FinePix S1600. (I usually shoot with a Canon 10D)

This is the mantra: It isn’t about perfection, it is about the memories….now breath! And take the photo! ;)

2011: Being a better friend to..you!

Like a lot of people, I have been thinking about goals and New Year’s Resolutions lately. Ideas have been swirling around in my head over the past week, but I have not been able to settle on anything…until the idea that felt right, came to me today.

I have decided that I am going to be a better friend to myself.

I want to be a friend who:

encourages you to follow through with ideas
makes you see sense
encourages you to make good decisions
helps you stay organised
reminds you to be kind to yourself
sees your potential
keeps you focused on your dreams
tells you to smile more
reminds you of your priorities and keeps you on track
knows when you should let go
encourages you to be unique and yourself
challenges any negative thoughts or attitudes
helps you gain clarity by giving you the space to really think
is your biggest fan
and makes you a good hot chocolate when you need it…(yum!)

Here’s to 2011!!

Christmas 2010 Highlights

Going to the Telecom Tree on Christmas Eve with the Family.

Then, heading over to join the big crowd outside the house in Oriental Parade, to try and make enough noise to make the sound activated Christmas lights light up.

Watching the Nativity scene in the Joy to the World DVD on Christmas morning on our bed with the kids.

The kids made Christmas presents for the family this year. I loved seeing the excitement of the giver and receiver. A lot of thought and effort was put into the making of the gifts over the past couple of months. It was really special to see the kids show genuine appreciation when they received the presents. Probably one of my favourite parts of the day.

Our special banquet breakfast (lots of favourite food and drinks – kind of like our tradition of the birthday breakfast in bed, but we get to enjoy it all together, and it is at the table…rather than the bed….hehehe.)

Visiting family and loved ones.

Looking 4 months pregnant after finishing the amazing Christmas dinner that my mother prepared!

From our family to yours…may you have a MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

Basking in the Beauty

On Sunday, we took advantage of the sunshine, and the fact that hubby had no Bishop duties after church.

We went for a walk in the Botanic Gardens in Wellington. Instead of sticking to the usual concrete paths that wind through the garden, our children took us somewhere we had never been before.

My son found a walkway off the path, and we followed it up. I felt like Heidi, girl of the Alps, as we walked through the bright green foliage (I used to watch this programme when we lived in Japan as a kid!)

We just kept on winding our way through the hillside, deciding on a whim which way we would turn.

It brought us here…

The walk was gorgeous. How can Wellington continue to surprise us with these beauties that keep us in love with this city?

As I walked along, I thought about how this walk would not have been possible in another season of our life. I could not have done this walk with a pram for example.

I thought about how our family is evolving. Just like it evolved when we no longer planned our day around naps, or when we evolved from one, two, three, four children.

I like the pace, I like the adventure. Sometimes you are never really sure of what is coming next. There are also the parts that are trying and so exhausting. But the view…you can’t beat the view…

Trash the Dress Photo Shoot

Just before I left for Melbourne, I went on my first ever photo shoot with my photography class.

It was soo much fun!

We had 5 brides who were willing to get out in the wind, get their gowns a bit roughed up, and let a bunch of photography students snap away.

I have a whole new respect for wedding photographers, and portrait photographers in general!

These photos were taken at Plimmerton, near the Fire Station.

 

Discovery Date: Shopping Therapy at East Geelong

After having breakfast part 2, courtesy of my friend’s hubby…

Shelly and I ventured out past all the blocked roads for the UCI Road World Championships (Union Cycliste Internationale) to get to East Geelong. There was a shop that she wanted to take me to, and I wasn’t disappointed.

The shop is called “Goose” and it is a treasure trove of all things gorgeous! If you are ever out this way and are a lover of beautiful things, you have to pop in and have a look!

Stationery

One-of-a-kind Books

Kitchenware

Clothing

Children’s items

Jewellery

and much much more!

Then we went across the road to “Grandma’s Bottom Drawer” which is a nice wee gift shop. Shelly and I bought a couple of gorgeous books for gifts.

Last stop was a couple of doors down to “Create on Garden” which is a scrapbook supply store with other lovely stuff. I bought an awesome craft turntable with removable mini-buckets.

Here are some of my favourite goodies:

Fred M-Cups – Matryoshka measuring cups! CUUUTE!

KidsKitchen Craft Turntable by SteadySticks

I fell in love with this bowl (I will figure out how I will transport it all the way to New Zealand later!)

Photography Challenge: Time

Wow! I just won this week’s challenge for my photography class.

Here is what we had to do:

This weeks challenge is “TIME” Our most precious commodity, show us your representation of time…. try to demonstrate its finite nature.

This is was my entry. I chose it because I liked how it showed the past and the present together in one shot.

Last week’s challenge was “SHADOWS”.

These were my entries:

Next week’s challenge is “MOTION”. Can’t wait!

Discovery Date Drama

The forecast predicted rain today, but all I could feel was the warm sun on my skin. The ocean beckoned me.

I dropped off my daughter at Playcentre, left the cares of housework behind, picked up some OJ and a croissant, then made my way to Oriental Parade.

As I drew closer to the water, I started to feel excited. It had been some time since I last spent time in solitude at the beach.

I felt like the clouds were closing in from all directions. I wished for one moment out by the water, just a little bit of time before the clouds set in, and I would be happy.

Then it happened, I got a flat tyre. I managed to pull into the car park by the beach.

As shocked and disappointed as I was, I couldn’t help feeling grateful.

I haven’t had my cellphone on me all week, but this morning I decided to bring it along….and it was charged!

I was afraid my Automobile Association membership had expired. Once I called them, I found out I was all paid up until December.

I was safe, I was getting help, and I had a good book to read while I waited. I felt grateful.

After the tyre was changed, I finally had a chance to have a walk around in the brisk, chilly, winter sunshine.

It was a brief moment, but the moment was mine, and I breathed it all in. Grateful again.

After picking up my daughter and finding a place that could fix my tyre I got some bad news. The tyre wasn’t worth fixing because the sides of tyre were worn due to an unbalanced car…boooo. The other front tyre was also worn and needed replacing…double boooo.

Once again, I felt shocked and disappointed, but in the end I couldn’t help feeling grateful.

Grateful for the helpful man at Beaurepairs who fitted us in, fixed our tyre while we waited and became smitten by my daughter. “She’s a great kid, I wonder if she knows how great she is.” Awww **bless**

Grateful for the yummy hot chocolate that was on tap in the waiting room.

Grateful for the TV in the waiting room that we were able to switch to the kid’s channel.

Grateful for a happy wee girl who waited with me.

My discovery date certainly didn’t turn out like I had planned, but who knew that I would have had so many things to be grateful for after getting a flat tyre. God is good. ;)

My Love/Hate Relationship with Routines

When it comes to routines (meaning things that need to get done on a regular basis…including chores and things that promote physical/emotional/spiritual wellness):

I LOVE the peace it gives me, and the feeling of being on top of things. I love not feeling overwhelmed. I love the feeling of satisfaction. I love it when the kids’ routines are so ingrained that they do it without being told! (*YEEEES* *fist pump*)

I HATE convincing myself to do any sort of routine when I am tired. It’s like I am choosing to rebel, but it’s like I am rebelling against myself! I hate getting the kids to do their routines when neither of us are in the mood. I hate the fall out that comes from neglecting the routines too long…..kids searching for socks, hubbies searching for dishes, mummies negotiating walking through the family room without stepping on something!

It never ceases to amaze me how EASILY the house can get turned upside down even after one day of not picking up after ourselves.

So this week I am going to be working on being more consistent with our routines so we can enjoy the peace of mind (and sanity) that comes from having order in the home.

My plan of attack:

  • Get plenty of rest
  • Establish realistic routines
  • Be consistent
  • Motivate with small rewards (“just do A, B and C, then I can do D”)
  • Be flexible when needed

Twittering about my goals has always helped me stay motivated and feel accountable.

So feel free to follow my tweets at JugglinMthrhood.



Lessons in Motherhood: Comfort vs Fashion?!?!

Last year I wrote about “comfort vs fashion” and the sacrifices we may make in the name of fashion, eg wearing high-heeled shoes when you know you will be running after a toddler, choosing to wear a fashionable top even through you know it won’t keep you warm…the list can go on and on!

Well, now I want you to think about what fashion sacrifices you make in the name of comfort.

Do these sound familiar: (If being a “fashionista” is in your blood, this may not apply to you…hehehe)

  • Wearing a pony tail day after day.
  • Having a kid friendly bag, a back pack or one that you wear across you chest. A fashion handbag just doesn’t fit the nappies and water bottle and change of clothes etc etc etc that you need. Plus it hits the kid in the head when it comes off your shoulder, and it is sometimes tricky to hold a toddler and handbag at the same time.
  • No time for make up (some of which are incredibly out of date)
  • No Accessories (who wants a necklace in the way of doing the dishes, or having earrings constantly being pulled off)
  • Can’t remember when the last time you actually bought clothes that wasn’t a sweatshirt, a pair of jeans or a t-shirt.
  • Clothing decisions revolve around the weather. Short-sleeves for a warm day, Long-sleeves for a chilly day, Jersey for a cold day…all teamed up with the trusty jeans (that now have holes in the knees…but we stopped worrying about that ages ago right!)
  • Practical, Practical, Practical!

Comfort was definitely my number one priority when I woke up (sleep deprived from broken nights rest) knowing that I was going to get drool/food/milk somewhere on my top during that day. Sometimes we are in survival mode aren’t we!

And then the cloud parts, and you see that fashion has moved on, and they might as well be selling alien suits in the stores, because you could never imagine yourself wearing the stuff that is out there.

But then things start to change….

You start to treat yourself with a haircut more regularly.

You linger in the shopping malls a bit longer since you aren’t on a breastfeeding curfew any more.The fashion doesn’t feel so foreign. You buy a few new pieces that make you feel like a million dollars, including a nice pair of jeans for the size you are now, instead of waiting for all the baby weight to fall off.

You invest in a “adult’s” handbag, and feel great using it!

You go out in the evening with friends or a date with your hubby and actually apply make up, earrings and a necklace. You look “hot”, even if you do say so yourself!

Even though on an everyday basis you keep it casual and comfortable, you know that on any given occasion you can turn the dial-up, because you are one “hot mama”….it’s just a matter of taking care of yourself and working through any issues that maybe a barrier to believing you are beautiful inside and out. (I think the “How to look good naked” series was inspirational because they were able to help the women change their perceptions of themselves…powerful!)

Discovery Date: Bath & Candles….just what the doctor ordered

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I can’t even remember when the last time I had a nice long bath was! Is that sad?

While I was de-cluttering a few weeks ago, I came across some bath bombs and a whole bunch of candles…yay!

I’m counting down until the younger kids are in bed so I can put them to use.

I’m hoping I will get a bit of peace and quiet with no interruptions. Kids knocking on the door and asking what I’m doing or begging me to open the door would be a bit of a mood killer ;) hehehehe (can you tell I speak from experience!)

I must admit, the thought of turning back the clocks so the kids could go to sleep earlier did pass my mind!

Not too long to go now…

I think the anticipation of some pampering time, is half the fun isn’t it?!

Lessons in Motherhood: A week without TV and Computer

Well, we are back from our weeklong break of the TV and computer. You may be wondering how we did!

Last week we were blessed with the most amazing winter weather in Wellington. We spent our TV/Computer free week of the school holidays going out every day and loving it! Our days were spent at parks, library visits, creativity centres, craft workshops, train trips and we even had a night walk and did some star-gazing.

The rest of the time we read books that we got out at the library, and drew…drew…and drew some more (restocking our art supply was one of the best investments of the week!)

My hubby thought he woke up to the twilight zone to find our 5 year old boy sitting at the table drawing (he usually just draws when his sisters draw) and our 9 year old daughter in the lounge reading a book (she is usually the one drawing).

Also, the other thing that I noticed, was that the children just got on with playing with each other. Sometimes all together, sometimes they would break off in twos. Lots of complex imaginative play that would just go on and on. It was fantastic! It would have never happened if their faces were glued to the computer screen or TV.

My 9 year old told me that she loved the week, and prefered it over watching TV or playing on the computer.

I also noticed that the kids and I settled and went to sleep a lot better too!?!

As the kids adjusted to having no computer and TV during the day, I had to adjust to it in the evening, when I usually hop on.

I must admit the first night I was bored! I soon found things to occupy my time though. Sometimes it was working on my to-do list, like mending clothes (finally!!) and reading new books. Most nights I would end up just hanging out with my hubby, which was looovely. We went out on a date on Friday, and when we came home my mum said the kids were really good. My Hubby attributed it to the TV/Computer Free week. ;)

I think the thing I missed the most was the convenience of paying for bills online…I had to post cheques and use the phone! (old skool!)

I can tell you that I didn’t miss the fights over who’s turn it was on the computer/TV, or the kids getting grumpy when the TV got turned off, or the late nights after letting the computer suck too much of my time.

I like the freedom of being computer free in the evenings and during the day…so I am having to re-think how I am going to fit it into my routine. hmmmmm??

That is where we are at the moment…figuring out how to transition back into using them again, and how much to use.

It was a great exercise to become free of those things that we thought were quite established in our lives.

We got to see that, actually, we can manage quite well without them, thank you very much!

Follow on from the post: “Going Off-Line for a Week…You’re What?!?!”

Lessons in Motherhood: Se7en things I would tell myself back then

I am so excited to be included in Se7en+1′s blogaversary’s celebrity week. She is a wonderful lady, who does amazing things with her kids.

She asked me to list se7en things about anything! So I decided to write about “Se7en things I would tell myself when I started Motherhood“. Here is a sneak peek:

  1. Beware of your expectations of yourself. There is no such thing as a super mama! As rewarding as motherhood is, there are difficult times. We need to ride through them and not be so hard on ourselves when everything isn’t “perfect”. Also, it is ok to receive help ;)
  2. Never compare yourself to other mothers. The problem with comparing is that we often compare our weaknesses to other’s strengths! How fair is that?!?! Instead of spending our energy thinking about what we aren’t good at, why not spend it focusing on finding out what our unique attributes are.

Read the rest over at Se7en’s blog

Discovery Date: Channeling Beyoncé

Guess what I did tonight? I learnt a hip hop routine!

Mums in the City put on a Hip Hop Class through Pump Dance Studios.

I rocked on up by myself, not knowing anyone…and I was pleasantly surprised at how many brave, adventurous souls decided to try something completely out of their comfort zone as well!

We all learnt a really fun dance routine to Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies”.

Everyone did soooo well, and we managed to pick up the steps and had a blast!

There were some awards given out at the end of the night.

We felt pretty special when a couple of us won the “baddest” dancers prize! Yay! (That’s us in the top right photo with our yummy chocolate prize)

Mums in the City included time at the end for some chit chat and supper. I was able to meet some great people and enjoyed this delicious spread:

Tried something new: Check!

Met new people: Check!

Had a great time out: Check!

Thanks Mums in the City and Pump Dance Studios for putting on a fabulous event!

Upcoming Mums in the City events (for more information go to their website or facebook page)

A Pamper Evening at Sarak Hair & Beauty Salon on Thursday, 19 July 2010 at 7pm. Free consultation, goody bags and nibbles.

Secondhand Clothing Sale on Saturday, 28 August at Johnsonville Community Hall. Sell your unwanted, nearly-new clothes, shoes and accessories. Shop for bargains. $10 if you want a table.

Adult Classes at Pump Dance Studios (for more information go to their website)

Thursdays at 7-8pm at Pump Dance Studios, Level One, 302 Taranaki Street, Wellington

Lessons in Motherhood: 10 tips to get your mojo back

lost mojoSource: Google Images

I hate loosing my mojo. I just don’t feel like myself. So frustrating when it happens during the school holidays. Isn’t that when you need it the most?!

Everything seems to take more effort….to get out of bed, to do the dishes at night and to think of fun things to do with the kids.

I’ve had enough of my mojo-less holidays…so I’m going to be doing something about getting it back. Wish me luck!!

Here are 10 tips to help you get your mojo back:

1. Commit to getting plenty of sleep, and waking up early so you can ease into the day

2. Scrub your skin when you are in the shower/bath

3. Drink plenty of water and eat nice healthy food (avoid fatty foods and foods high in sugar)

4. Exercise, the endorphins will help you feel better

5. Get out of the house for some fresh air and sun

6. Do something fun and silly with the kids

7. Start a project that excites you

8. Listen to some really upbeat loud music

9. Write down things you are grateful for and things that made you smile today

10. Talk to someone, to give you some perspective

Good reads

Good mood: 10 ways to get yourself back into one

The Golden Seven: Missing

Chez Lee: Needing Sleep

5 Secrets To Having Happy Kids (Number 5 says: “you gotta be happy first before you can expect your children to be happy”)

If your mojo goes missing for more than two weeks then you may want to look into whether something else is going on.

Discovery Date: Venturing out into the “adult world”

Source: Arizona's Website

I can honestly say that I can’t remember the last time I had a weekday lunch with adults…childless! Has it honestly been 9 years?!?!

My hubby, dad and I were all willing beneficiaries of a meal voucher my mum received in a accommodation/meal package she bought.

We went to Arizona Bar & Grill, Wellington and I ordered the delicious Black Jack Steak Sandwich. “Sliced marinated beef sautéed with onion, paprika and mushrooms. Served in a sage bread stick and topped with melted Monterey Jack cheese with french fries and creamy guacamole.” (Yes it did taste as good as it sounds, totally recommend it!)

We squeezed our huge plates and two entrée plates around the small tables and proceeded to gleefully gobble everything down until we were full.

Source: Aol Travel

I’ve noticed that when I dine with children (especially at buffets) I don’t eat until I’m full any more. I eat, I tend to the kids, I eat, I tend, I eat, I tend, the kids get restless, then it’s time to leave. It’s actually a good way to keep the extra pounds off ;)

After lunch we had a little bit more time up our sleeves, so hubby and I went jean shopping. Jean shopping on a weekday! Once again….a first in a long time! But alas, I am a woman who needs a lot more time to try on every pair in the shop before I walk away the “perfect jeans”…so we will hold off until I venture out into the “adult world” sometime in the future!

I found this voucher on Vouchermate which is valid from 24-May-2010 to 13-Aug-2010. Enjoy!

vouchermate

http://www.vouchermate.co.nz/vouchers/7912

Lessons in Motherhood: The many pictures of Motherhood

On occasion our outings have looked like this:

But more often it looks like this:

For some reason my kids like to run everywhere instead of walk?! (Can you imagine 4 kids trying to outrun each other…having absolutely NO idea where they are going…well those are my kids ;) hahaha)

And then there are moments like this:

Where everything fades into the background, and all that is left is you and your child. HEAVEN!

Lessons in Motherhood: My health wake up call

We often associate “Sustainable Living” to the environment, but have you ever considered how it can relate to our health and wellbeing?

Is the way you treat your body sustainable?

Luckily throughout my life, and through my pregnancies I have been quite “healthy”, so I thought. In other words, I haven’t had many complications. So I have continued doing what I do, and not thinking much about it.

I have been unwell, on and off for about 3 months now, and today I was thinking, “This is the only body I have. If I want it to become a well oiled machine, what would I need to do?”

As I thought about nutrition, hydration, and exercise I was shocked to realise that the very thing that I encourage my children to do – in order for them to be healthy and happy – I had stopped doing myself!

Without thinking about it, I had developed some habits that were not doing my body any favours:

  • I was good at getting my children to eat a healthy high fibre breakfast to start their day on a good note, but sometimes I forgot to eat breakfast.
  • I was good at giving my children water or milk to drink, but I forgot to pour me a glass when I ate, or re-hydrate myself during the day.
  • I was good at including vegetables with my children’s meals and plenty of fruit in their lunch boxes and snacks, but I forgot to prepare a salad or eat plenty of fruit throughout the day.
  • I was good at getting my children to go to bed at their bed time because I knew they would become grumpy and irritable in the morning, but I forgot that if I had a late night it can actually make me grumpy and irritable too.

With so many things to do and remember, sometimes taking care of ourselves physically can get dropped off our to do list. When there doesn’t seem to be an immediate detrimental effect, we continue the behaviour that isn’t “sustainable” for our bodies.

On The Oprah Winfrey’s Show: “What is your body trying to tell you”, Dr. Northrup says your health depends on what’s going on with your mind, body and soul, and your symptoms are actually your soul’s way of bringing deeper issues to your attention. “You’re in labor with yourself because everything that no longer serves your highest purpose and your optimal health starts to go away and your body gives you signals’—Hey, you’ve been putting too much stuff under the carpet emotionally, nutritionally, not exercising … putting everyone else first. The kids, the husband, the job, whatever,’” Dr. Northrup says. “And your soul is saying, ‘What about me? What about me?’ And your body will start getting symptoms to hit you over the head with till you wake up.”

I went to the doctor again today, and I will be doing more tests, but one of the things that the doctor did tell me I needed to do was get more water into me and eat more fibre (fruits and veg!). So simple! Yet it is something that I have not placed a high enough priority on lately.

I think the learning I am going to take away with me from this experience is, “I am not putting a high enough priority on my health.”

I hope that by sharing this, you won’t need a wake up call like I did, before you start thinking  about how you can make changes in your lifestyle to make your health and wellbeing more sustainable.

Much love~!

Good reads:

Oprah – What is your body trying to tell you? Gives lots of advice about lifestyle, nutrition, taking care of your body and yourself (yay for discovery dates!)

My Pyramid: One size doesn’t fit all. MyPyramid offers personalized eating plans and interactive tools to help you plan/ assess your food choices based on the Dietary Guidelines for Americans.

About.com: Highest fiber vegetables, fruits and foods (funny, I just noticed that in NZ we spell “fibre” differently from Americans “fiber”)